Weaping and the Crabs!

Ryan had is friends over Kate and Andrew..we were all watching a movie and everyone was talking and having fun.. Ryan left............ and I followed him and I said . your friends are here why are you running away.. and he said RYAN NOT WANT KATE TO SEE RYAN WEAPING RYAN WANTS TO TALK. ..so.. we both hugged and as I was trying not to fall to pieces we prayed and asked God again together to help us.. and then I said ..I will talk for you you just tell me what you want to say and I will talk for you .. so he said... RYAN SO HAPPY YOU BOTH ARE RYANS FRIEND Then I said..hey.. you can ask about Andrews crabs he keeps .. and RYAN SAID CRABS DIE Well... Ryan seems happier after talking he told me he was a while later. but we go upstairs and I told Andrew hey I told ryan to ask you about your crabs and ryan said they died...... Andrews face lite up. yah..but they lived longer then any on my friends crabs!!!!...on went the conversation and they all thought it was funny cause Ryan corrected his MOM!!

I am tentative!

So, Watching a Soma dvd Ryan and I asked him how can I be a better teacher for you......
and he said

RYAN HONESTLY REALLY VERY BORD WITH YOUR TEACHING....

Well, yep.. that made my day! So I said ok.. what is your favorite subject if I could just teach you one thing.. listed off. science history etc. and he said

RYAN LIKES READING STORY

Well... I said ok Literature... then I said.. why is it that you don't like to listen to the stories Mrs. Weber tell on line anymore and get this............... Ryan says..

RYAN IS TENTATIVE SHE TOLD STORY THAT WAS SO SAD!!

oh.. he is so right on with that comment!!.. Yes she did! I said.. I know.. I totally agree ...she told this story about a boys dog( Stone Fox) whose dog falls over dead minutes before he wins a dog sled race just shy of the finish line.. they end up carrying the dog over the finish line.!!

so I agree and now I know why yesterday when she did another book he was running away!!!

Now what to do..I told him I would talk to her and make sure the next story is happy or we are not listening ..so there! LOL!!

I am sorry I picked on you Dad!

So, Last night Ryan and I had school work to finish up, so Ryan saw Dad maybe 10 minutes ..then he and I went to the basement to work. Well...Paul was asleep by the time we got upstairs. I told Ryan he could not go into Dads room because he is tired and needs rest. That did not make Ryan very happy at all......he is sitting in his bed and he is trying so hard to talk. the word DA DA is coming out several times... ( by the way he is really talking more ..thanks to prompt speech therapy method!)

Here we go.. Ryan says

DECIDE DAD NOT FRIENDLY" RYAN NOT LOVE DAD.

Well, I told him..... that is not God that is causing you to think that way.. you know your Dad loves you and you love him...... then went on to explain again... you just have not seen him and miss him.. and are sad..so you are allowing your mind to go to wrong thinking. Well I gave him a hug... hung with him awhile and then went to bed.

Now it is morning and a few minutes ago.. ( told Paul most of what I shared on blog left out the I don't love Dad could not tell that to him) so he Comes down stairs and sits down on the couch next to Ryan and tells him," I missed you last night Ryan..You and I are going to spend lots of time together this weekend. We are going out tonight to Willies and then to Whole Foods Saturday...just me and you buddy.. See I missed you so much that I am going to be late to work.. just so I can sit here on the couch and talk to you.. ( yep..he is so sweet to Ryan) Then Ryan letterboards this..

DAD MAKES RYAN SO HAPPY

Then of course hugs and Paul tells ..him.. You make me so happy Ryan too!

Paul heads to the kitchen and is getting ready and I said anything else you want to say.. we love when you talk on the board ... and I said I LOVE this BOARD.. ( I started being funny and kissing the board ) I love it because you can use it to tell us everything. you think and feel..
Well Ryan says...... this ....DAD HAVE A GREAT DAY.... I AM SORRY I PICKED ON YOU( cracks me up and at the same time is so sweet and so real)
Well. Paul is ..well..... you can imagine how he feels.. and then Ryan adds



ONE MORE THING I LOVE YOU.....

( I am holding backt he tears trying to letterboard the final Letters..he is pointing to.......Huhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!

My son..my sweet kind loving son........man he just brings me to tears.. I only pray to be as loving and kind as him.. so .. It is a good day ....

TP-ing ............the neighbors house!

Dad went in the bathroom and the toilet paper was gone.. once again..and he said to Ryan .. what did you do... TP somebodies house??? How come the toilet paper is gone?? All in a joking manner... I chimed in and said, " He doesn't know what you are talking about.." and Paul said... ,"Yes he does!". And he grabbed Ryan's letter board and asked him,"Do you remember anyones house getting toilet papered in our neighborhood? Well he spells...........DAVE'S.............. Yep.......... the only house ever in our neighborhood to get toliet papered............. Dave's!!!! He got the name.. and he got his last name and his daughther's name too! Well... he is so smart and such a good memory...that happened 5 years ago...................WOW!!!

the poem

There was this thing where it would have you pick a color a noun an a adjective and then click a button and it would insert your words into a poem.......Well Ryan did this .. and we read the poem It said the girl named laura with PURPLE HAIR and well it was .. wait .. will let ryan tell you..................What do you think............Ryan.. he said


DUMB........... I asked him how did you know how to spell dumb.. he said Ashley told me...she did I asked her

LOL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

WE MUST HAVE CHILDREN WITH NO VOICE LEARN RPM

A incident happened that to honor Ryan I will not mention.. however............. after seeing the beautiful outcome because of the open ended communication with rpm had on this situattion.. I had to blog this..............

PLEASE share the blogs I have written with folks..... so they might understand the life changing effect rpm has on families and children with Autism. It makes me so sad to know how many children are trapped for NO REASON................THERE IS NO REASON .. THEY HAVE TO BE TRAPPED WITH NO VOICE.. IF RYAN LEARNED RPM AND I LEARNED RPM AND MY 13 YEAR OLD DAUGHTER LEARNED RPM AND MY HUSBAND AND MY THERPIST LEARNED RPM ...................EVERY FAMILY IN THE WORLD CAN LEARN RPM.........EVERY CHILD CAN HAVE A VOICE...............PLEASE BELIEVE ME...............WE JUST ARE NOT TEACHING THEM BASED ON THEIR SENSORY CHANNELS.............. It is simply heartbreaking so I have said enough.. but wanted to call out to whoever may read this blog......... THANK YOU FOR LISTENING... GOD BLESS THE CHILDREN............

AN INVITATION

Ryan was doing language arts with Ashley and he was learning how to write and invitation. He letterboarded a letter based on the model in his english book.

He choose the person the place the date the time and what the invitation was for... how awesome!



it said.....

DEAR KATE, I WOULD LIKE TO INVITE YOU OUT TO LUNCH. IT IS JANUARY 9TH AT 12

AT,SAY,CICI'S.

PLEASE LET ME KNOW IF YOU CAN COME


YOUR BEST FRIEND

RYAN



Oh.. I just loved the use of the word,"say" and by the way..you will find us tomorrow after church at cici's pizza with kate!

FORGIVE RYAN.. LOST PRIVLEDGE!

Ryan and I fell asleep before dinner...not good.. Well went to our favorite restaurant.. Willies.. and home and soon it was bedtime... well.. the night was a complete disaster.. not to wake Ashley we brought Ryan in our room and told him to lay down and be quiet and to watch his Babe the Pig movie which always puts him to sleep. Well 5 hours later .. he is jumping on the bed and laughing.. yep.. so his Dad told him I am not taking you to the store tomorrow if you don't lay down and go to bed.. well....................... he lost his privilege. So I said to Ryan.. Mommy is very disappointed in your behavior.. not listening to us when we told you to watch your movie and lay down and be quiet... he spells....... FORGIVE .. I said forgive what? FORGIVE RYAN he said. I of course had to give him a Mom speech about repenting when you do something wrong and to be honest ..I was still upset and exhausted and really was not ready to forgive him........great huh.......so then he says... this to me GOD NOT HOLD UNFORGIVENESS.

Well...........there it is....... I repented for my not unforgiveness toward Ryan................Dad of course was in on all of this and we all hugged each other and said to Ryan we forgive you for not listening forgive Mommy for not forgiving you sooner Ryan........ We said what happened why could you sleep.. and he said NAP.. yeah....I know......

Then hours later when dad had finally woke from his nap.. Ryan the first thing he said to Dad was... RYAN LOST PRIVILEGE TO GO TO STORE... Sadly Paul said.. yes Ryan but we will go tomorrow..... Would I have forgiven him.. or just held all that frustration inside with the letterboard.......

CHRISTMAS MORNINGS is so Different!

It is Christmas morning and Oh.....what a great morning!......Last Christmas we were not fluent on the 26 letter board... now we are and life is so good. We every Christmas would watch Ryan not interested ( we thought) roaming around for food and never ever wanting to open a present.. well still he struggles with the whole unwrapping thing but it is because he is so ..wait let me tell you his words " SO HAPPY" , and here it comes Ashley was letter boarding with him and she said Do you want to say anything Ryan ( as he sat in his favorite green rocking recliner) and he said " SO EXCITED MERRY CHRISTMAS, GOT INTERESTING GIFTS."

Then Ashley asked him what his favorite gift was and he said," SO MANY RYAN LIKED"

He is happy about Christmas and he straight out told us!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

So did I ever imagine after the diagnosis of Autism, that I could some day have my Ryan... well it has happened... it is a Merry Christmas... remember he just told me...he said Merry Christmas!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!...and it is a Merry Christmas!!!! .. God is Good ..always.. he is Ryan's strength, by the way. He calls on God and he spells that out too!

Merry Christmas everyone... send this to someone who has a child with Autism... if Ryan can do this and the 100's of other kids can do the exact same thing...their child can too.............. believe........love Teresa

Ryan told us he had a headache!

Well, again..........why is rpm so worth learning.. Ryan got up at 1:24am.. he has sleep issues but we were surprised he woke so early..stayed up the rest of the morning and kept going to the bathroom.. again.. not the norm..

Well Paul said.. I think Ryan doesn't feel good..I was so wiped out.. having been up all night... that I could not see it... Later that day... he seemed fine.. but was laying on the couch and Ashley wanted to teach him his Ohio Virtual Academy school work.. and he would not sit in the chair.

Ashley said," why can't you sit down ..you need to sit in your chair to learn ( OVA computer is is at the desk/chair area ) and he said,


"RYAN CAN NOT SIT IN CHAIR CAUSE ME HEAD HURTS" (ash said you mean my and he said yes!)

then here I come in the room... Ash tells me and then I said did your head hurt just now or did it also hurt last night?

"HURT AT NIGHT"



Well.......... that made me feel bad and also at the same time relieved that he just wasn't getting up for the heck of it.. and to tell you I was very edgy/irritated and flat out exhausted over him not going back to sleep the entire night....
Ryan having his voice helped me to understand and to be more compassionate . So.. I took a deep breath and it all made sense to me....


So it is good...I am going to ask him in oh... 30 seconds how he is feeling . hope his head is ok....

Where are the Caramels!

Hi Everyone.. this is Ashley.. just wanted to tell you a funny story about today. We went to Whole Foods market and bought these caramel candies. I was searching all over for them because my dad hid them from me, and won't tell me where he put them! So he says to me, Ryan can tell you he saw me hide them but I told him not to tell anyone... so Dad left for the store again and I wanted those caramels.. so i asked ryan on his board, "Ryan, where did dad put the caramel?" He says SECOND DRAWER IN THE FRIDGE. So I thank him and then run to the fridge and check. They aren't there. So I ask ryan, " Were you telling me the wrong place on purpose?" he says, YES. RYAN SAID WRONG PLACE BECAUSE DAD SAID NOT TO TELL:) I laughed and laughed! I told ryan that he's good at keeping secrets! So funny!