Wednesday, June 30, 2010

WII .. I AM NERVOUS AND SCARED!

WII COMPUTER GAME TENNIS AND SKIING............... HE SHARED HE WAS "SCARED NOT WANT TO MAKE A MISTAKE"...... WE DID IT TOGETHER AND HE SAID ," WII IS SO FUN.. RYAN PLAYED TENNIS WELL!

GOOD DAY!

WOW.........THE MAZE!.. HE LIKES IT!

I WOULD NEVER TRY A MAZE BECAUSE WE CAN NOT EVEN WRITE OUR LETTERS INDEPENDENTLY.... BUT TODAY WAS OUR DAY.. AND RYAN FELT GREAT ABOUT DOING A MAZE. I HAD HIM CHOOSE THE COLOR MARKER BY SPELLING THE COLOR ON THE BOARD.. THEN STARTED. THE BOOK WAS A NEMO COLORING BOOK. .. WELL RYAN AND I DID IT TOGETHER .. I TOLD HIM.. YOU TELL ME WHICH WAY TO GO. GIVE ME DIRECTIONS.. START SAID WHICH WAY RYAN UP... WE HIT A WALL OR DO WE GO DOWN.. CHOSE DOWN. THEN CONTINUED WITH OUT LEADING QUESTIONS...HE WAS "PLEASED" AND ALSO SAID "VERY LIKEABLE" AND SAID," RYAN IS VERY ACADEMIC"........GREAT MORNING......... HE ASKED TO DO A SECOND MAZE........NO WAY!!!NOW WE HAVE A NEW FUN THING TO DO..

Monday, June 7, 2010

Think on this... we say kids with Autism may have memory retrieval issues!

Went to Kings Island it has been three years since we visited the park .Walked the park rode some rides and heading to the parking lot..calling it a night...got to what I will call the split.. One way took us to the parking lot and one way to other side of the park with the small kid rides. Ryan loved this one ride when he was little but he was smaller and I figured he would not fit into the small train so we never went into that section of the park that day.

Well give a guess which way Ryan was pulling me. I said...no the parking lot is this way.. kept pulling. so I stopped got out his board and said..Where are we going?

TO RYANS RIDE

Yep he took us straight there we were BLOWN AWAY........

The park had changed hands and much looked different... he knew. He remembered!! A good night!

William Tell and Ryans new story!

Reading about William Tell and how he was forced to shoot the apple off of his own sons head and legend has it he saved the second arrow to shoot the Governor for being a tyrant.

So I said you write a story today.. I wrote Chapter One. and Ryan wrote:

Title... SON TO MURDER
XTREME NIGHT SON MURDERED YOUNG ANIMAL MURDERED MANY WANT KILLING TO STOP
STOP MURDERS UPSET
RYAN STOPPED THE MURDERS
REACH NOT INTO HIS QUIVER (we learned quiver as vocab word in W.Tell story:))
HE SENT SON SORT OF
HE SENT MESSAGE
STOP
SOME TIME PAST XTREMELY WEIRD TENSE MURDERS STOPPED
THE END ( did not want to correct him on spelling of extreme..)

Saturday, June 5, 2010

Ryan is teaching again!

Observation today.. Ryan request Wallo an d Whizz.. from yesterday.. told me yesterday I was reading to fast again said same thing then slowed it down had to define to many words in book and then he said TO DIFFICULT..

changed to factual stuff solor system Ryan said very interesting. timer went off wanted more 30 minutes when had a choice of 10 /15 or 30 minutes.. then got tired....... stopped

interesting

Romantic weekend... Nope...Apply foot to Break!

Well the plan was set... Paul and I had not gone had a romantic weekend away from the kids for over 3 years! I am thinking..... Had Lisa my dear friend who loves Ryan and Ashley to stay Friday night and we would be home Saturday. I told Ryan... Mom and Dad are going away for the weekend and you get to spend time with Lisa and Ashley ! you get to have Pizza and swim and it will be so fun! I knew Ryan loves Lisa! So, during the day was on the phone sharing my great news with a friend all is well and then Lisa knocked on the door. Ryan very Happy and now looking back very overly exicited greets Lisa at the door. Told Ashley to watch him while Lisa and I work on going through paperwork, details, routines etc.



Well, Ryan would not swing, kept coming up and down the stairs.. as Ashley is saying Ryan doesn't want to watch TV or swing, I should have clued in but I was thinking. Something was not right with him. Oh. I thought. he just wants Lisa all to himself not doing paperwork with me.. Lisa confirmed my thought and agreed with me!

So it continued Ryan kept coming up to Lisa ... we are thinking again... wants to her to play...Well, now I hear him fussing and starting the upset sound.....Hmm.. that is odd.. let me go check him.. Grabbed my letter board and a pencil and up I went....... So he is in tears.. I said you have to sit up and tell me what is going on....... Ryan crying tells me... RYAN UPSET MOM NOT GO.

Well, he is crying now BIG tears and extremely upset. face is red, wet from tears ,shutting eyes and head hung down it was so sad.. I said. Oh.. I had no idea THAT is why you were crying.. I thought you were mad because Lisa wasn't swinging you.......I was SHOCKED. I never connected the two. WOW.......I told him... I never even asked you if it was OK with you and how you felt about me going away for the weekend. I should have figured it out the last time Dad went out of town he said RYAN WANTS DAD NOT GO AWAY. PLEASE NOT GO.

Again, our romantic weekend.. was only one night staying at my folks house which is vacant.. 10 minutes away... and I told him I would be home early morning... See again from my perspective it was no big deal..

So, we changed plans and Paul and Ashley got in the our car and I said Ryan and I will drive with Lisa .. we will all go swimming. Again, like he told me in another post I mentioned .. that I dont as Ryan used the word,"SHARE" things with him..I did it again.. not discussing our trip and again, telling him which car to drive in verses asking.. I asked Ashley who she wanted to drive with......UHHHHHHHHHHHHHH.. Actually to make myself feel worse.. Paul said..Teresa why don't you ask Ryan who he wants to drive with... it wasn't even my idea..huh...



Well, I "knew" because I just know everything(LOL!!) that he would want to drive with Dad.. He picks Dad over Mom every time.....Well, got the letterboard out and he said RYAN WANTS TO DRIVE WITH MOM.....Again BLOWN AWAY....... OK.. drive with me and Lisa....

Couldn't I see the full picture.. he was so upset over me saying I am going away for the weekend.. that he want to stick with me for the car ride.. We told him we would talk about it and work up to Mom and Dad going away and him being OK with it...

So for the weekend my romantic getaway is quite familiar.. and really I am very happy to be home with Paul and the kids. It is all good and again.... with out RPM .........I would have never known my son needed me and wants me to be with him... so it is all good!!!

Friday, June 4, 2010

Listen up everyone...ryan is teaching us how to Teach!

Ask me when you see me to explain what took place in more detail regarding teaching this IEP Goal.........so very interesting... but will try to explain

1. goal.......to look at completed colored picture choose the correct color crayon that matches each portion of that picture...then color duplicate picture that had not been colored correct color.
2. Showed Ryan 4 colored pencils.. asked him what color is this pencil..spelled out colors..new that was going to be WAY easy. So he knows the pencil colors green,yellow, red, orange
3. Drew out on index cards heart, butterfly, leaf and lollipop. Ryan with ease.. labeled on board item and its color. again.. he knows colors and items. EASY ( told him sorry this may seem silly to you.)

4. Then layed out .. starting on left side colored heart picture a duplicate picture with no color and then layed out the four colored pencils. I said... thinking he would easily grab the red pencil color the heart and be done! NOPE.. I told him grab the matching color pencil... grabbed green, restated.. grab the red pencil I want you to color the other heart red too.. Nope.. grabbed the first choice..closest to him..green..
5.So, I said this seems hard for you why do you think that??? He said. RYAN IS LIMITED WHEN REACHING OUT HARD TO SEE.
6. Oh.. I said.. Immediately grabbed the pencils spread them out between my fingers and pulled them really really close to Ryan to simulate his pointing board. DEAD ON CORRECT! YEP..
He shared: HE DEMONSTRATES NOT MOTOR SKILLS
NOT IDIOT
ON DIFFICULT ROUTINES JUST LIKE THE ONE WE DID REACHING OUT IS MUCH MORE TO SEE
WE MEAN TO MAKE TERESA PROUD WANT TO
so, I am holding back the tears.. and I let him know that being proud of you has nothing to do with performance......it has to do with the wonderful kind, loving person he is...
These kids want to do well and we are setting them up over and over again to FAIL... Shared this with my OT.. and the challenge is to help him get better without affecting his self esteem. Please anyone who reads this......think on this..... a well taught lesson from Ryan! Again...I am learning ................ we all are learning. It is all good!

Thursday, June 3, 2010

XTREME ORDERS.............MOM!

Sitting in front of the sliding glass door this morning.. first practice speaking, reading our prayer sheet, (faith in God gives Ryan HOPE)

Did not want to practice speaking said: SPEAKING TO HARD.. I said.. we will just do it together..you told me you want to speak so we will work on PROMPT stuff... ( mouth movement) After that which was maybe 5 minutes if that.. Ryan was upset somewhat... I said OK our schedule then..you pick.. 3 things you decide. we can't just lay around and watch tv all day... Math, science, story poetry, history..

WHILE YOU ARE MAKING XTREME ORDERS RYAN NOT SURE YOU LOVE RYAN

Of course he got the "i love you so much speech from me..:) hugs kisses:)
Then we talked about why I am asking him to learn and earlier on I .. I told him his learning the letter board will help other kids. ( parents who read this..tell you kids that too!)

After he said the above comment... He ended by saying

I RYAN WANT TO HELP OTHERS.

END

Good day...........his life has meaning and purpose and all is well..

Wednesday, June 2, 2010

pointing book

Ashley needed clear plastic page covers for presentation.. so I found Ryan's old visual scanning book that I had made up years ago.. it was one task that he semi enjoyed.


Well Ryan is laying on the couch... and I am talking to Ashley.. Ryan doesn't need this anymore.. you can have the pages.. gave them to her.. 10 minutes later was working with Ryan starts crying..

RYAN NOT HAVE MANY THINGS
RYAN WANTS TOY
PLASTIC PAGE NEED RYAN

more things he shared can't remember.. I can't believe it........ I had ...we had no idea he even cared about that book......thank GoD for RPM

Change in format for those reading blog!

I have missed hundreds of things Ryan has shared so I decided I will just write them and if I have time will tell the background as to how it all came about at a later date!
Thanks for reading.. please go to HALO... and give your children a voice... work hard and practice... your life and your childs will be so much better..


Today.. from Ryan

SOME TIMES NO ONE STOPS TO SHARE
I RYAN REALLY NOT IDIOT
SORRY
ONE THING EITHER STOP NOT SHARING
HEAR NEED
I RYAN MEAN NOT TO INSULT YOU
I VERY MUCH LOVE YOU