Well the plan was set... Paul and I had not gone had a romantic weekend away from the kids for over 3 years! I am thinking..... Had Lisa my dear friend who loves Ryan and Ashley to stay Friday night and we would be home Saturday. I told Ryan... Mom and Dad are going away for the weekend and you get to spend time with Lisa and Ashley ! you get to have Pizza and swim and it will be so fun! I knew Ryan loves Lisa! So, during the day was on the phone sharing my great news with a friend all is well and then Lisa knocked on the door. Ryan very Happy and now looking back very overly exicited greets Lisa at the door. Told Ashley to watch him while Lisa and I work on going through paperwork, details, routines etc.
Well, Ryan would not swing, kept coming up and down the stairs.. as Ashley is saying Ryan doesn't want to watch TV or swing, I should have clued in but I was thinking. Something was not right with him. Oh. I thought. he just wants Lisa all to himself not doing paperwork with me.. Lisa confirmed my thought and agreed with me!
So it continued Ryan kept coming up to Lisa ... we are thinking again... wants to her to play...Well, now I hear him fussing and starting the upset sound.....Hmm.. that is odd.. let me go check him.. Grabbed my letter board and a pencil and up I went....... So he is in tears.. I said you have to sit up and tell me what is going on....... Ryan crying tells me... RYAN UPSET MOM NOT GO.
Well, he is crying now BIG tears and extremely upset. face is red, wet from tears ,shutting eyes and head hung down it was so sad.. I said. Oh.. I had no idea THAT is why you were crying.. I thought you were mad because Lisa wasn't swinging you.......I was SHOCKED. I never connected the two. WOW.......I told him... I never even asked you if it was OK with you and how you felt about me going away for the weekend. I should have figured it out the last time Dad went out of town he said RYAN WANTS DAD NOT GO AWAY. PLEASE NOT GO.
Again, our romantic weekend.. was only one night staying at my folks house which is vacant.. 10 minutes away... and I told him I would be home early morning... See again from my perspective it was no big deal..
So, we changed plans and Paul and Ashley got in the our car and I said Ryan and I will drive with Lisa .. we will all go swimming. Again, like he told me in another post I mentioned .. that I dont as Ryan used the word,"SHARE" things with him..I did it again.. not discussing our trip and again, telling him which car to drive in verses asking.. I asked Ashley who she wanted to drive with......UHHHHHHHHHHHHHH.. Actually to make myself feel worse.. Paul said..Teresa why don't you ask Ryan who he wants to drive with... it wasn't even my idea..huh...
Well, I "knew" because I just know everything(LOL!!) that he would want to drive with Dad.. He picks Dad over Mom every time.....Well, got the letterboard out and he said RYAN WANTS TO DRIVE WITH MOM.....Again BLOWN AWAY....... OK.. drive with me and Lisa....
Couldn't I see the full picture.. he was so upset over me saying I am going away for the weekend.. that he want to stick with me for the car ride.. We told him we would talk about it and work up to Mom and Dad going away and him being OK with it...
So for the weekend my romantic getaway is quite familiar.. and really I am very happy to be home with Paul and the kids. It is all good and again.... with out RPM .........I would have never known my son needed me and wants me to be with him... so it is all good!!!
i have had my romatic weekends on one of the best places that could be offered to someone and let me tell it comes down to the company and the mindset you have no matter where you are.Even seemystic http://seemystic.com/ and have talked about it in an interview.
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